Some brides do not have to think twice about who is to be their Maid of Honor. For others, it is a difficult task, choosing between their favorite girls.
The Maid of Honor is not just a position of pride, it is also one of responsibility. The success of your wedding depends to a great extent on who you choose for the task. If there is more than one contender for the role, make sure you think it over and assign the position to the person who is best fit to handle the responsibilities that come with it.
What are her responsibilities?
Your Maid of Honor is the captain of your bridesmaids group. She will be hosting your bachelorette party as well as your bridal shower, and helping you with all your wedding day decisions. She should be with you throughout the wedding ceremony, be capable of handling wedding emergencies and take charge of your wedding dress soon after you change out of it.
This requires her to be efficient, organized and available. One important factor is that you should feel close to her, be free to discuss your decisions or concerns and share similar taste. So, the right choice would be someone who is neither overbearing, nor too shy. Your best friend or perhaps favorite cousin or sister would be the best candidate for the role, if they fit these requirements.
Choose supportive and practical over stubborn and dramatic
Wedding planning is stress-laden as it is, and you need all the support you can get. Your Maid of Honor should be able to handle her responsibilities without making a big deal of it, or worrying you over every detail. She should be capable of working with minimum supervision, co-ordinate the bridesmaids without difficulty and not add to your stress levels by worrying you with unnecessary details.
Someone who understands your likes and dislikes, and knows your taste would be a better choice than an irresponsible and dramatic friend who seems incapable of handling the job without your help at every step.
Pay attention to personal situations when choosing the person
Being sensitive to your dear friend’s situation will help you make a decision that is both sensible and well-intended. If the person you’ve always considered for your maid of honor has just had a baby, or is going through a financial crisis, don’t burden her further by thrusting this role on her. Or if you feel that she still ought to fill the position, make sure you check with her first and confirm she is interested in being your maid of honor, rather than assuming it on her behalf.
What if you can’t make up your mind between two women?
For those ladies who are unable to decide between two best friends who are equally close to you and capable too, you have two options. Either ask them how they feel about being co-maids of honor, or leave the decision to them. This way, you can take the pressure off yourself, while also feeling good about your choice.
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I have seen wedding parties that include TWO Maid of Honor, so that is certainly a possibility if you cannot figure out how to choose.